Saving ourselves

I have noticed recently that several of my friends have been struggling with the concept of what a relationship's purpose is. So many people, myself included until last year, use relationships because they erroneously believe their partner will "save" them from their problems. Putting all of that responsibility onto another person is unfair to both parties. First of all, no one wants the burden of being completely responsible for another's well-being, especially to the extent that the other person literally needs you. Second of all, you are selling yourself short by not accepting responsibility and control of your own life. Anyone can do this if they put their minds to it; moreover if one does take this path, words cannot articulate how much peace and serenity you experience by taking control of your own life and not trying to either control or excessively rely on others.
I sincerely believe that these realizations have changed my life and if I wouldn't have been granted the gift of being alone for all of these months, I would never have realized any of these things. I am convinced that this new path will lead me to the partner who I will truly love.