I found an interesting article about overcoming romantic obsessions on the website whatiscodependency.com. Here is a very helpful snippet which contains a useful list:
Tips for Dealing with Obsessions
The best way to end an obsession is to “lose our mind and come to our senses!” It follows that if an obsession is to avoid feeling, getting in touch with feelings and allowing them to flow will help dissolve our obsession. If our obsession helps us avoid taking action, we can get support to face our fears and act. When our obsessions are irrational and allowing our feelings doesn’t dispel them, it can be helpful to reason them out with a friend or therapist.
Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?” and wait patiently until you know.
Learn to meditate to quiet your mind.
Do slow movement to evocative music, and allow yourself to feel.
Write about your feelings (ideally with your non-dominant hand) and read it to someone.
Share at a CoDA or Al-Anon meeting.
Spend time in nature.
Read spiritual literature and/or attend spiritual/religious gatherings. (Beware that religion and spirituality can become obsessions, too)
If you’re obsessed with a person, get “14 Tips for Letting Go” at www.whatiscodependency.com.
Put your energy into expanding your social network.
Do something creative.
Develop interests and passions that feed, inspire, and nurture you.
Do what you enjoy. Don’t wait for someone to join you.
If you’re obsessing over a broken relationship, here’s a list of things to do and think about.
Do the exercises in Codependency for Dummies, especially Chapter 9 on nonattachment, and the exercises inConquering Shame and Codependency.
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