Happy Summer Solstice! I wanted to share my daily meditation from Answers in the Heart because I have had a former romantic interest recently contact me. I did not respond to him because I have choices and the choice to reestablish communication with him would not be a healthy one for me.
• JUNE 21 •
It is not only for an exterior show or ostentation that our soul must play her part, but inwardly within ourselves, where no eyes shine but ours. — Montaigne
One of the first things we learn in recovery is that we have choices. This can be a startling realization, for as sex addicts we gave our lives over to the comforting delusion that we had no choices, that we were victims of life. We face many choices during the day. In fact, everything we do is a choice. We may think the small choices — what to wear, what to eat, whether to have coffee or tea, whether to go to a meeting — are unimportant, but together they make up the fabric of our lives. It is those choices, made one at a time, that we lean on when we have to make big choices. And our ability to be abstinent, the most important choice of all, is determined by the small choices we’ve made out of love for ourselves and commitment to our recovery. We can be grateful that recovery has restored to us the power of choice.
I may be powerless over my addiction, but I’m not helpless. I can make choices.
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