Rushing Intimacy

I have been thinking a lot about the tendency of myself and men I have been involved with to rush intimacy. There is always a reason why someone chooses to do this and it's always based on an unhealthy reason. For example, I did it because I wanted acceptance from my partner. I thought if I could make my sexual prowess apparent from the very beginning, I would endear myself to them because I was so special. Not surprisingly, this tactic was never successful. By doing this, I cheapened the intimacy that I gave to others and simply had superficial liaisons. Life is too short for that type of nonsense.
In regards to some of the men I was entangled with, I have read that those with personality disorders force a false sense of intimacy to "get you hooked" quicker. In the case of my most recent qualifier, this was certainly the case. It's disturbing how quickly and fast that I fell for it. And I know that I am not the only person who falls so quickly for all of these pretty words and flattering attention. I am just extremely blessed that my eyes were opened before I wasted one more precious second of my life.