Qualities of my Ideal Man

At the suggestion of a very special person in my life, I wrote out the qualities of my ideal man and placed this list in my Bible. The idea behind this is that when the time is right, God will allow this person to enter your life. I wrote this list on October 23, 2017, which was even before my recovery in SLAA began.


My ideal man must meet the following physical requirements: tall (over 6 feet), big hands, hairy chest and arms, beard, short hair, can weigh anywhere between 200-250, any color eyes, deep voice, and a great laugh. In summary, I want to be attracted to my partner and the qualities I have listed above are clearly qualities that I am attracted to. I require that my ideal man live in my local area, be intelligent, have motivation, ambition, and clear and concise goals that he aspires to meet on a daily basis. Must have some type of education beyond high school and believe in God (no more atheists please!!!) He must also love football, be health conscious, and participate in routine physical fitness. I will not tolerate a man who smokes or chews tobacco. Must be affectionate, a good listener, and empathetic. Must have a good sense of humor and be kind to both himself and others. Must be honest and NEVER cruel. Must not be emotionally unstable, have anger problems nor double standards. Must not have an active drug or alcohol problem. Someone in recovery is fine as long as they are working their program and are serious about recovery. Must like animals, particularly cats. Must be romantic, considerate, and conscientious. My ideal man is someone that is optimistic and positive but not boring nor dull. I am looking for someone who is tolerant of others and has a liberal political view. I am looking for someone who likes history, travel, and dance. I want to find someone who is actually emotionally available to love and be loved and will show me this when he makes love to me. I have had so much meaningless sex in my lifetime;  I am so over it. I want to see what meaningful is all about. I want to find someone who is truly interested in what I have to say and wants to know details about me and my life. I will accept nothing less than someone who accepts and loves my son. He is part of the package, if any man comes along and doesn't like this, then too bad, there's the door, BUH-bye now.
I would love to find a man who my family/friends approve of and like. I have yet to find this which is pretty astonishing at my age. I want someone who treats me with respect and loves and accepts me for exactly who I am at this moment. I won't have to chase or play games with my ideal man. I want to share my hopes and dreams with this man, find a true partner in every sense of the word. I want someone to listen when I am sad, upset, or struggling with something. I wish to be able to discuss my issues with my dad, mental illness, and addictions without fear that he will judge and/or abandon me. I am looking for someone who will compliment me and help me to grow to become a better version of myself.  I want to find a man that I could easily fall in love with and more importantly, STAY in love with. I want to experience a healthy relationship, one that will show me that being in love does not mean being in pain. Last but not least, I want a man who will give me my dream wedding which is not lavish nor expensive in the least. I just want a meaningful wedding with someone I am truly in love with and vice versa.
I know that many people in my life feel that I am too picky when it comes to my standards but I used to literally have no standards and look at how that turned out. I am willing to be patient and wait as long as it takes. When God determines I am ready to experience true love, He will give it to me. Of that, I have no doubt.