Red flags continued...

As I mentioned in my blog yesterday, many love addicts are inadvertently attracted to narcissists. I know this from both personal and professional experience. So far, my personal experience has been most convincing to me. The 2 relationships in which my partner had me under the strongest spell were both with narcissists. There are many reasons why this is and I think that because each person is unique, his/her story is unique so there is not a "one size fits all" answer.
However, in my case, I have always been deeply attracted to confident, charming, and masculine men who seemed to have control of their own world. I welcomed the challenge of trying to "conquer" these men by winning their love and approval. With each successful battle I thought I had won, the exhilarating feelings never stopped. I could always depend on a hit of this type to keep me engaged in a relationship long after I should have left.
I have learned many things about all of these topics during my months of recovery. I think a great way to sum up the basic lesson is this: the next time that I feel an overpowering animal attraction to someone, I need to immediately turn and run the other way because without a doubt, this person will be bad news for me.