Pondering addiction

I apologize for the negative content of my blog the past few days but no sense in sugarcoating how I am truly feeling, right?
Tonight my thoughts have been centered on addiction for a few reasons. One of these reasons is that my dad has struggled with addiction for the majority of his life and he has never done too much to work on them. His 2 major ones are to alcohol and tobacco. His addictions have absolutely destroyed his life. And yet he continues to be blinded to that truth.
And obviously my 2 major ones are to men and food. When I am not struggling with 1, I am struggling with the other. Or sometimes both simultaneously. Here is my main question....when do you ever feel peace from the demons of your addiction? After a specific time of sobriety? Or does it take death to finally quiet those monsters within?